Why Do Guys Change Their Minds About Girls So Quickly?
One day, your guy wants to give you the world. But the next day, he says it is over; his feelings for you have changed. Isn’t it frustrating and mystifying? Until I discovered why guys change their minds about girls so quickly, I kept experiencing the shock and pain of suddenly losing a guy’s affections again and again. To help you avoid a similar fate, here are two things about guys you need to know now…
1. Guys communicate more with their actions than their words.
Chances are, the guy you’ve been seeing has been exhibiting signs that he is losing interest in you. But because you didn’t understand what his actions, or lack of actions meant, you assumed that everything was going fine. When you miss the signs, you feel that a guy changes quickly. But it may not be the case. Why I bring this up, is because I too thought a guy would TELL ME if he felt something was wrong. I assumed guys also agreed that talking was the best way for us to communicate! But, after taking the effort to learn more about men, I discovered that guys communicate more with actions, than with words. I also learned that guys will go to great lengths to avoid hurting a girl, even if means lying to her. That means, if you ask a guy “Do you still love me?” He will say lie and say yes if he thinks it can avoid hurting you. It sounds crazy, but it is the truth. That is why it is so important for women to learn how to decipher a guy’s actions, instead of only listening to his words. One strong indicator of a guy’s continued interest in a girl, is that HE asks you out and travels to see you.
2. Guys need to be loved for who they really are.
Guys crave true intimacy with a woman – because emotional intimacy is something they often can’t share with friends. However, if a girl doesn’t know how to communicate with a guy in a way that makes him feel safe enough to open up to her, he will eventually give up and shut down. A guy will keep hoping to emotionally connect with a girl, until she does something to convince him otherwise. Most guys won’t be able to explain it, but loyalty is very important to a man. It may seem obvious, but girls seldom understand the kind of loyalty that men need. Apart from being sexually and emotionally faithful, guys need a girl who can help keep his secrets for him. Usually, his secrets concern those of his family and his thoughts and feelings. If a guy feels you can’t help him keep his secrets, he will subconsciously avoid emotionally opening up to you. When this happens, his feelings for you will change. Whether or not he wants to.